Iconocloaca, despite your obvious love of trolling, you sound like a guy who actually does (or did) desire something meaningful from his relationships. I went through a phase similar to what you're expressing now. It still shows signs of creeping back in every once in a while. With full knowledge that I'm going out on a limb in saying so, just realize that you will never get more out of a situation than you put into it. You will often get less, but that's true of any situation, not just relationships. And that does make it tempting to settle for less than what you really want - the possibility of success is only that, a possibility; by changing your conception of what success is into something less, you're almost guaranteed to find "satisfaction." You may, over time, have come to actually convince yourself that all you really want is the occasional wet hole. I don't think that's true, though, and if not, I hope you can regain the desire for things of worth, and with that, come to embrace the challenge inherent to finding them. After all, if it were easy to acquire, would it really be that valuable?
WTF do you mean by "mastering" social surroundings/reality?
Getting your peers/family/friends to worship Graveland?
In a sense, yes. That could be one way to do so. I'm assuming he meant mastering one's social surroundings to mean manipulating them into coming closer to his own ideal vision of the world. In that case, there are obvious things that would bear a greater priority than making all his acquaintances share his musical tastes - running a drug dealer out of the neighborhood, for example.