Any recommendations on going about finding such a person (increasing odds)?
Search your city for stores, groups, clubs and organizations that are up your alley, or start one of your own. For example there' www.meetup.com
with lots of discussion groups. You can also find groups listed on Craigslist, etc. You can check out local occult shops if that's up your alley. Check out clubs are your school. In all these places your chances still aren't very good, but I think it's a place to start. As a woman you could also try posting a personal add on Craigslist, but as a man there are so many men already posting for women everyday probably your post would not be read by many women the kind you're trying to attract (who have the time and desire to read through all that BS).
This is reality speaking, you're going to have to compromise of some of your criteria or die alone.
Sure, but just understand it's a compromise.
Also one's view of the afterlife really affects the equation. If you believe there's a whole other universe to explore after you die (if you pass through the bardo successfully or etc), then it would be ludicrous to believe you could find your best match on this small planet during such a limited amount of time.