Are the two that opposite?
No, they're not. God created the universe ex nihilo, as nothing that is in the universe did not receive its being from God, since being predicates the attributes of all things which have being.
If God permeates all consciousness and being, how is the universe not both product of God and his being?
Creation is certainly a product of its Creator, but it is not the being of the Creator. The being of God is self-subsistent, unqualified, and atemporal (all qualities which actually collapse into one another in the actus purus that is God). Created being is received being, and God both gives things their being at their creation and holds them in being from moment to moment.
If God is not anthropomorphic and personalitied, how is he not an animistic / pantheistic existence?
Because God is both immanent and transcendent. His Essence transcends comprehension, as It is the Confluence of all actuality; in other words It is the perfectly Being all that any particular thing that exists can be. We recognize that things really are things in any given present instance, but that they are subject to mutability over a series of those present instances. That thing cannot be all the things it has, may, or will be at once, but we don't want to come to the wrong conclusion that the change exists and the thing doesn't as a result. That conclusion leads us down the road to many errors, such as relativism and dualism, for the road to Hell is wide. If we could imagine what any given thing could be if it was all that it can be, we would conclude that its most perfect being would be unqualified Being. A conclusion of this line of thought is that since all processes in time are the process of things moving to an actual form that was implied by the actual form's prior potential form, the end that all things move towards is pure Actualization, and thus the end of all things is God. This also means that God is Good in Itself, since good is defined (as per Aristotle) as 'that at which all things aim'.
In that case, it makes sense that the universe = God and created itself.
Not quite. Panentheism (God pervades and transcends the cosmos) makes a lot more sense than pantheism (God's Being is the being of the cosmos), because pantheism is a really shaky basis for morality. Build your house on sand, the apparent mutability of the world, and it will fall with a great crash; build your house on a rock, the principles by which that mutability is actualized, and you will glorify those principles and as a result the world through your understanding.
From a monist perspective -- the only sensible one -- the universe is either all matter (and then how did it begin?) or all thought, with matter being a consequence of that thought.
The second part of your statement is partially true, but one would have to understand what thought in this context is. As you said above, God (the Father), is NOT an anthropomorphic entity.
Even more, monism would posit that matter as a subset of existence creates with it time, which means that on some level there are no beginnings and endings -- only the thoughts of a universe creating itself, or a God developing itself, or a God creating a universe of itself so that it can discover itself through the mechanism of "consciousness," which is time-dependent but capable of analysis as a result, where an all-knowing thing is limited by the fact that it cannot know -- it can only Be.
For the most part that is profound and correct. As nothing that has being contains anything that God did not give to it, then God is aware of the entire spectrum of potential forms for any given thing. This isn't really predestination, but more so a continuous act of unfolding eternity. From the atemporal perspective, the realization of this eternity is always complete, but from the temporal perspective the clash of beings actualizing creates the impression of linear time. At some point, obviously, that which cannot persist is going to be burned away and what will remain will be more perfectly actualized than what preceded it.
Food for thought. Producing flatulence for fear.