There has been a couple of topics floating around vaguely addressing the question of love, what it is, where it comes from and where it is going, but all in relation to procreation, and relationships, which I feel is secondary to the real issue. Love deserves a thread of its own.
My view on the matter is pretty much summed up by this wonderful quote from Charles Manson, from his interview with Charlie Rose (conducted in 1986 - my year of birth):
'Everything is love. There's nothing that isn't love. Even the confusion is love in one form or another. It's misguided. Love is a word that we use to supplement for God. Or, I would like-, I would rather use the word intelligence. If you're going to use the word love, use the word intelligence - because love is misunderstood in so many ways and fashions'.
(The interview can be seen here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H4uT6ou_ZGw
-The quote appears around the 12-minute mark. Manson is way better seen/heard than he is read).
'Love' as word has been chained to the romantic, because the love between man and woman is about the only purity most people get to experience in their entire life. In reality, it is much more than that, though: Love is transcendence. It's and immediate and direct knowing
. Unity through experience, or ultimate reality, or whatever you wanna call it.
The essential thing is: It cannot be explained
- it must be experienced. If you have never experienced love, there's no possible way for you to understand it.
Manson calls love both God and intelligence because the experience is a melding away of the ego and catching a glimpse of an infinite order running through the All. One could call it the absolute continuity between the mind-body and reality, but that's not really accurate. It's more like an awakening: Your being becomes the eye of divinity, beholding everything it has created.
But love is also profane as fuck
. It refuses to be chained down, and deflates all self-importance and grandeur. In love we touch upon the infinite by being the infinite in infinite ways. Whether this is a kiss or a smack in the mouth depends entirely on the situation-
One bizarre aspect of love - the power
of love - is synchronicity. Suddenly, everything is about it
. You realize what it's all about, but this realization is inexplainable. You can only hint at it, and point others in its direction, but they'll never see it unless they realize it themselves. Birds become words. The book of revelations becomes realism. Absurd and seemingly insignificant little phrases like 'it is it', 'it is what it is', 'that's it' takes on immense importance. (Danish: Det er det
This is the origin of one of the famous clichés of being in love: Suddenly all the sentimental lovesongs on the radio takes on importance. It all becomes about that girl
Since most are chained to the physical, they'll never realize that that girl
is also about something else. She's just a link in the grand chain of being. It runs through everything, even fear, death, destruction, hate etc. These aren't always 'nice' to look in the eye. To avoid beholding the great light and dark of reality - and love will
take you through these beautiful and horrible things if you run with it - humanity has build a fence around the 'safely' romantic, and call that
love. Thus love becomes 'biology'. Ultimately, it becomes boring, or overtly complicated. Confusion
This is also the story of, why humanity has isolated itself from nature.
Enough words. I've already said too much.