Nerd rage sequence initiating in three, two, one...
The Lord of the Rings movie trilogy was obviously "upgraded" from the book in minor ways but it still had some very badass female characters who do nothing to reinforce negative stereotypes; just the opposite. Arwen was Strider's romantic interest but I don't even remember a kiss between them. The most sexist thing was casting that shit actor Tyler in her role, obviously a choice to pander rather than maintain quality.
Galadriel was the RULER of the entire Elven race, and almost singlehandedly maintained her race"s presence in Middle Earth with her magical strength (which possibly even surpasses that of even Gandalf, who was probably the most powerful magician in the story besides Bombadil but he was neither Elf nor Man). She also supplied the Company with tools and items that she knew, with her magical foresight, would aid them on their qiest (though she might not have known how critically important the Light and concealing cloaks would be, but I bet she did). So she did rule alongside her husband but we all know who really wore the proverbial pants.
Eowyn had a typical girlish crish on Strider but both characters respected eachother in the most mature way. Furthermore she personified the stereotype-destroying rebel by forgoing her princess-ly duties to fight and kill enemies - not for the approval of Strider or another man, but because she wanted to kick some ass. (This is not so apparent in the movie; so what do you know, fantasy fiction in the 1950s was less sexist than modern day cinema!)
Now if the movie had Galadriel and Arwen talking about how cute eachothers' circlets or gowns were, it would be A-OK by feminist standards and would support the movement toward equality for the sexes.
Star Wars? Yes, Leia is captured (during a mission way more daring than any other man was willing to take at the time) and requires rescuing. Obviously sexist. Then she grabs a gun and starts killing people. She falls for the bad boy but is able to "tame" him despite her aloofness and apparent romantic autonomy, which reflects real-life tendencies pretty well. Of course she shows up in a bikini later which again is obviously sexist, but she was captured while trying to rescue her dumbass boyfriend; a little subversion of typical roles, but nicely ironed smooth by the subsequent bikini scene (during which she brutally murders an infamous crime boss). So if you think there is not plenty of feminism sprinkled in with the pandering, you need to watch again. Also; before the final attack on the second Death Star, Mon Motha ( a femal admiral) is addressing her crew (including women) and doesn't mention anything about men (except what their roles will be in the upcoming attack). So BAM, suck that.