I wasn't initially talking about sex, either. But you know how deathmetal sites are.
If it's not death, then it's sex, and if it's not those, it's outrageous rudeness and barbarity...
That's humans for you.
I have found that sex and death, and life and death are intertwined. We can both find and lose ourselves in potentially annihilating acts like sex, prayer or meditative reflection, grieving, and our own departure from this life. A little roughness is a good thing if tempered by nobility in action because it is symptom of not being pretentious.
"He's a motherfucking good guy, or an awesome son of a bitch." This is really heartfelt love and sentiment which may be profane, but it reflects something which can be beautified. That is up to the person expressing such to work to that end, but we cannot expect every man to be an intellectual, but we can help them to be men, or to be women, to express the noble and high ideals even if they use baser language. It would be a more crude outcome, but it provides a foundation. After all, the strongest buildings across the world were built with days of hard labor and frustration, curses and profanities, but these sing praises to a great reality in which all can come to ascend.
I can say of myself that I desperately want to have love, before anything else. Other people say they want the physical first, and then love. If they can make it happen, so be it, even if we disagree with the method their wanting to achieve it may be fully within the law should they care of such.