There is some good information here that I will attempt to build off of.
Simply put, I should take all of the best and worthwhile qualities (dedication, loyalty, ect..) from family and friends, and disregaurd all of the meaningless values (love thy neighbour blah blah blah) by which most of these qualities stemmed from. It makes perfect sense now that I'm typing it out and seeing it in black and white.
It's unfortunate to me, that people like my father, who in his own way is a 'good' person, needs to define his character by a meaningless book. I guess it's probably the same old thing that's been hammered home on these boards thousands of times.
So, in retrospect, stay true to myself, use society and all it's demands as a means to a productive end (still working on what this is), and take the best of what is good and real from the people around you regaurdless of the reasons behind their good qualities. I guess the tricky part for me, was separating all of the bullshit religion, values, and morals, from the worthwhile core qualities that can (and should) be independant of this societies training regiment.
Thank you for the responses, this has helped.