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failure ≠ success

failure ≠ success
February 27, 2012, 03:22:34 PM
Avoiding shame (pain) which would force our learning toward improved outcomes next time.

We cannot avoid being wrong some of the time, but we can avoid being judged, so we try to change the minds of others so that they think failure is success. One way to do this is through morality. “I did it for the children” will work. The failure becomes a moral success.

Another way to fool others is to insist on equal validity of all outcomes. This is philosophy-speak for what happens when people say “I meant to do that” after they screw up spectacularly. If you lunged for cake and ended up eating feces, insist that it was performance art or religion and others will forgive.

Still another common phenomenon is the one we recognize from children’s tales as “sour grapes.” If you lunge for something, and fail to attain it, make sure you bad-mouth it. The children of rich people who camped out at OWS might have been saying “We have failed at being rich bankers, so burn the rich bankers!”


Re: failure ≠ success
February 28, 2012, 11:48:32 AM
Comfort: the number one killer of Westerners.
Avoidance, as a lifestyle, becomes instead, a deathstyle.

Re: failure ≠ success
February 29, 2012, 06:55:34 AM